father of the I just want to go fishing and ignore all of my old man problems shirt Besides,I will do this bride speeches. The word “dowry” is not not ringing in my head. As a bridesmaid, and then an engaged woman, I began to see just how much effort, energy and funds were funneled into matrimonial beauty, from multiple hair and makeup trials, to eyebrow shaping, gel manis, tactfully self-tanning, and subscribing to a workout routine that would yield Michelle Obama arms. To only hear men’s booming voices during the wedding weekend itself fueled a nagging sensation that brides were still expected to be seen and not heard; to smile brightly and look glowingly pretty and be appraised on their appearance, not their words. I couldn’t let that stand at my own wedding; neither could my mother, apparently, who gave a beautiful speech at our Floridian reception.