If you force this issue, you will drive a permanent wedge between you and Mickey mouse accept understand love shirt. If you do not attend her wedding, she will never forgive you. If you insist she not invite her stepfather, she will never forgive you. So you asked “What do I tell her?” The answer is: Tell her you are so excited to walk her down the aisle and are looking forward to the wedding. Ask her how you can help with anything. Do not say a single word about her stepfather. If he is at the wedding, which he probably will be, keep your mouth firmly shut and focus on making your daughter’s day a special one. We threw a smallish house party for around 20–30 people when we moved into our new home. We’d already had a housewarming party…
this one was specifically our direct peers (25–35 at that time), and was adults only. We informed everyone invited that no kids were allowed (included our own children that were staying with their grandparents for the night). One couple specifically asked if they could bring their kids, and we told them no… Regardless, on the night of the party, they showed up late, 2 kids in tow. Instead of being rude, I brought their boys upstairs to our game room, and setup both Xbox and PS4 for them (which were fairly new consoles at the time). Almost immediately, the older boy told me that the selection of games “sucked”, and “what else do you have?”. I was able to set them up with a couple of games that they were happy with, and went back downstairs to enjoy the party. Around an hour later, we all heard a crazy pounding noise coming from the game room, and I went running upstairs to investigate. The child’s father barely beat me up the stairs and checked out the situation. Everything was fine; the son had accidentally locked himself in the room, and started to freaked out. Standing behind the father, I could see almost the entire room, and could see that situation was under control; it was just a temporary freak out. So, we all went back to the party, and everyone had a good evening.